Letting go....

Was having a random discussion with a very good friend yesterday who was talking about some personal experiences and the discussion left me with some very interesting thots....something thats relevant to all of us.....random yet penning down nevertheless....

Let go..

Its amazing how these two words have the power to grab our lives in such a strong way and nearly strangle the life out!

Its not about trust, honestly, positivity etc etc....the success of a happy today...is in the ability of letting go the "yesterday"...

Doesn't matter how good or bad ur past has been....either ways...we need to LET GO....break the chains and move ahead.....everytime u try to walk with a lease on your leg...u will walk awhile and then fall...keep falling till u break the leash off!

Unfortunately most of us prefer falling rather than breaking this lease off....

The most beautiful form of existence is that which is absolute--which is here now, today for the moment.....no matter how great your past has been....with no comparisons and references to any time other than today....

And although people often talk about letting go off the bad aspects of the past...I believe its even more important to let go off the good aspects of your past....to be able to really live....

Its the happiness in your past that doesn't let you accept the sadness today...coz u feel you own happiness

Its the success in past that don't let u accept your failures today--coz u feel ur capable of better

Its the adventures in past that don't let you enjoy the stillness in your life today--coz u believe that life without adventure is death

Its the goodness in all the people you loved in the past that doesn't let you accept the faults in the people who you love today--coz u believe that faults cannot be loved

Its all great times with your best friends of the past that doesn't let you accept fights with your friends of today--coz u believe that you deserve better

Its your love in the past that doesn't let you accept your partner today.....coz u believe u can never feel the same way again

Its only when you let go off your past that you will have space to let in your present--Unless you fully let in your present-- it will never be your past---its a cycle....and letting go is the key.

Its only if the sun sets every evening that it can rise anew every morning....

Truths about marriage

Love is temporary insanity curable by marriage:-)

Happened to read this article on truth about marriage....somewhere and laughed at how funny and yet true some of these were!

1) I think, therefore I'm single.

2) Do you know why God withheld the sense of humor from women? So that we may love you instead of laugh at you.

3)The only time a woman really succeeds in changing a man is when he's a baby

4) I fell in love at first sight… I should have looked twice.

5) When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him

6) All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies by a marriage.

7) A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.

8) You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.

9) If a man is talking in the woods and no woman hears him... is he still wrong?

10) The challenge of marriage is to discover who you really married

11) All my life, I always wanted somebody. Now I see that I should have been more specific!

The highlighted ones are my favs!

Thats why they say...The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret!

The Missing Tag

Nope..its not a tag that I lost-but a tag that is hell bent on depressing me!

I mean why would I want to sit down on a busy Wednesday evening and write about all the things in the world I miss the most!!..Well coz untill I actually started I realised this was a tag difficult to end!

Coz fact is I probably didnt realise I missed all of these--I mean really missed them till I wrote the list...

1) Miss myself-I, Me, Myself--Who I was born as..just being me.

2) Miss crying (read howling) when I want to and feeling its a part of growing up...rather than feeling am already a grown up

3) Miss the "Shes-MY-girl" look(beaming proud look) on my granddad's face everytime I made a silly drawing as a kid.

4) Miss sitting with my friends at every phase and thinking of "what next phase in life" almost everyday and yet not having to do a thing about it!

5) Miss hugging my mom tight till I feel asleep.

6) Miss my bangalore life-the 3 years of freedom--every emotion- anger, fear, anxiety, joy, sadness hurt, loneliness and still knowing life couldnt have been better!

7) Miss the thrill and excitment of every crush have had and not done anything about-and yet knowing there's another one in store!

8) Miss being the "pampered-tantrum-throwing-spoilt-brat " always and getting away with it..EVERYTIME!

9) Miss all the fights I had with my bro--I mean why do Bro an sis stop fighting when we become older--Isnt that a "must have" for the relationship??

10) Miss being in control of my life--every aspect of it...of knowing I can make is all right.

On the other note--"U miss stuff only that uv had"!

Thank you god for all the misses I feel today....looking forward to many more!

Thx patient for tagging me

p.s:- No one tagged on this one--anyone wanting to visit the world of nostalgia is free to consider themselves tagged!:-)

Nasal Harassment at work

I am planning to create a poll on this and then file a petition for a law on "Nasal Harassement at workplace"

I have sneezed atleast 20 times(no exaggeration) since morning and its now becoming a ritual!

No this post is not a rambling about how well I can sneeze--but a depiction of what the Chanel's, CK's, Ralph Lauren's of the world are doing to poor souls like me!

The Lady in cubicle ahead of me has a perfume obsession--I mean literally!!...She even has a sly bottle tucked away in her drawer, one in the purse , one in the pouch in the office bathroom and god know where else!! She probably sprays on EVERY part of her body, every piece of clothing (maybe even her belts!)....She probably even has a separate cupboard at home just for perfumes....

And mind you according to observation these perfumes are used like medicines everyday-prescribed dosage ...thrice a day , one spray each time!!..I sit behind a perfume maniac and am turning into a perfume skunk myself--uuurrggg!!!...

So everytime the maniac gets into the spray act I tried my best to make the loudest 'on her face kinda' sneeze--however have realised its time to spray the truth right on her face....

So using the skills of being a HR professional I make a humble request to her...

Dear Ms Perfume Skunk,

Its great that you like to smell and smell and smell and smell good. However I do hope you realise you action is likely to create nasal harassement at workplace and is what I would classify as Obsessive compulsive disorder.

Please note in case your obsession for perfumes is to fool the world coz you do'nt have a bath everyday -- please understand you stink either ways. You need -"de-aroma therapy".

In your self-interest I would request you to please refrain from such nasal harassement activities. It is people like you who make HR people look good-coz you are better than them in making any workplace even more stinky!

Human beings are different from dogs-we dont dig sniffing other humans!

Looking forward to co-operation!

Please note:- Perfumes are meant to be used--Not to be marinated in!

Stinkingly yours!

Accchhhooo!!!

For the Best

It all happens for the best....they say..

Does it? Does it really? Does everything really happen for the best...ALWAYS?

Or is this just a way of consoling ourselves.... something I have always debated about.

Used to believe earlier that everything happens eventually for the best....but in the recent past...my belief is beginning to fade away...

Are we fooling ourselves into believing that for every bad that happens in our life(and continues to happen) there will eventually be SOMETHING good out of it...which will justify all the bad..the pain, hurt, agony its caused us?

Does everything really become ok in the end? Does everything really have a purpose? And what if we get through with out lives not even realising the purpose of all these things?

Am not so sure...in my own experience...sometimes things dont change..EVER...don't improve...or become any better and I have still been unable to see how it eventually happens for the good?

Not to say that we lose hope in making things better- but the devil's advocate is saying we all have been living in this illusion ....and we continue to do so...

The reality maybe that for some people, some things..dont change EVER...things may not become any better and that eventually there might be nothing good coming out of all the bad things that have happened to you....not every bad may have an eventual good hidden inside.

Its not about being negative...just realising that not EVERYTHING happens for the best....and that's probably as much of a fact as life itself.

So we take each day as our whole life. Hoping and praying that the new life that tomorrow brings will be better.