Wednesday, August 23, 2006

Those Left Behind...

We may not remember them everyday but is it really possible to forget them completely?

Sometimes people enter our lives outta the blue , stay for a little while and then go away. But in the little while they leave life-long impact on our lives...

No matter how much u try to let go, how much u try to distance urself.....they always keep coming back to u in the form of memories and thots..and then u wonder if it was a good decision to let them go away from your lives??....did it really make sense...why didnt we just hold on to them as they were....was it really worth it to lose them?

U let them go coz u think that is the best thing to do....coz u dont want them overpowering your entire life , every relationship and become larger than life itself......

But looking back now sometimes I do regret(and nope I dont have a politically correct..."regret free" life)....sometimes your mind yearns to speak to them..coz probably they were the only ones who listened to u, who understood u...accepted u.....

And I still wonder why did god get these people in my life...if they eventually had to go away....what purpose did it serve??....maybe I know maybe I dont....

Maybe I can change the course of things now...or maybe its already too late...

For now memories linger of those who got left behind.....

84 Comments:

At 7:17 AM, Blogger Keshi said...

ME FIRST :)

**and then u wonder if it was a good decision to let these friends go away from your lives??....

well I guess u don't deliberately let them go away...it just happens...cos it's just not meant to be for longer than it was supposed to be.

I still think of some of my lost friends...even some blog friends who were a big part of my daily life just a year ago. Now they dun even drop in to say Hi. For all I know, I didnt push them away...they left me. This may sound like I'm trying to be on the good side...but this time I am on the good side. No doubt. Cos they chose to end it.

But I still admire what they brought into my life...even if it didnt last long.


Keshi.

 
At 7:43 AM, Blogger samuru999 said...

Great post!
I so often wonder what happened to
many friends I used to be so close with!
It tends to make me somewhat sad when I dwell upon this!
There is one friend in particular... she was so important in my life ( about 10 years ago)
But, she turned on me one day...
and became very mean.
And, I found out she had many problems in her life...
and was quite jealous of me
( for whatever reasons, I will never know.... a sad situation!)
But, I still think of her...
and wonder how she is... and I also miss her!
It is strange how one can be so
close, and then nothing!
Take care!
-Margie:)

 
At 8:48 AM, Blogger indianangel said...

Ha! I usually never think like this! Yeah there are some people who are so close and then they suddenly get past your life and u even totally loose your contacts with them! But rather than thinking abt those lost moments, I always thinks what's ahead of me and the wonderful moments that I'll have for tomorrow! That atleast keeps me enthusiastic and happy - wat say?

 
At 9:07 AM, Blogger deepsat said...

they say life is a journey and friends and are the best companions!! they make the journey memorable. but then we can meet them only when our paths cross.

;-))

 
At 9:44 AM, Blogger ektaran said...

We meet to set Memories
and
Depart to remember them :)

 
At 10:01 AM, Blogger QuillDancer said...

I'm missing a lot of friends because life changes and you accidently move on and leave them behind without meaning to -- like Tom, he went into the service and I moved while he was away. A couple years later I visited home, went by his parents house -- and a shopping mall sits there now. The grape vine told me they moved to Florida -- no Tom.

But I have never lost a friend on purpose -- old lovers, a couple of enemies -- but never a friend. I am still close to kids from grade school.

Thanks for stopping by my blog.

 
At 10:29 AM, Blogger Mr. J said...

Perhaps it was supposed to be that way.

 
At 12:33 PM, Blogger Has to be me said...

All good things in life has to come to an end. Be happy that there r atleast those sweet memories to linger upon now. Thats how I console myself too! So just cheer up n move on!

 
At 12:35 PM, Blogger Murali said...

First of all, Hi to u...hve been reading a lot of ur blogs..am totally enw to this blogging world...
Thats a wonderful thing to remember Ekta...i too have jumped companies while i was in India, hve made a lot of friends in each and every company and have been closely acquainted with a lot of good people in these companies. But when u ask me where they are now and what r they doing, it would be very difficult for me to answer. The same with them too.
I always wonder whether this saying is true.
"A true friend is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes the smile on your face"

Murali

 
At 1:35 PM, Blogger manish said...

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened :-)

 
At 1:39 PM, Blogger christabelle said...

...only true friends will leave footprints on ur heart.

even when all contact is lost I still consider such pple my friends becos their memories are etched in my mind.

But there've bn some friends I left behind who meant a lot to me at one point in time or the other, somehow when I think about them now, I dnt regret it cos i know its for the best both for me and them.

life they say goes on.

 
At 2:07 PM, Blogger Pea said...

Friends come and go .. its time, distance and growing up. But with some .. I think the bond goes beyond time.. and no matter how long you're not in touch ..or updating each other.. when you meet ..you feel as close as ever. These are the friends I truly cherish.

 
At 3:20 PM, Blogger Arz000n said...

yeah...I agree with you here..
I still miss my friends who used to listen to me...and accept me the way I am...
now that they are long gone...I talk to ma pet...they listen to me all the time :)

 
At 3:37 PM, Blogger Pritika Gupta said...

Life has to be like this only... it should keep going.. y u let ur old frineds go..so tht u can make some new friends..its always gud to let urself n other free.. so tht when u met after years.. u can be happy to see nth has changed..

 
At 4:42 PM, Blogger justme said...

u r not the only one Ekta..
its strange dat wen u look back at memories they always seem to be really good..

wen people r with u..u cn only look at things dat u dont like abt them..wen they leave u... u can only think abt wat u actually like abt them.. guess dats d only way we know their true worth.. sad but true.. d whole world lives on this principle..
sad but ture..!!

 
At 5:38 PM, Blogger Aditi said...

Maybe those friends in the short time that they were there have influenced you and changed you for the better.
If you're thinking this much about them, maybe you should look them up. I think with the internet nowadays you might be surprised at how easy that can be

 
At 5:56 PM, Blogger southpaw said...

Dont try to change anything keep eliminating them as they come coz certain things do come with a tag that I AM GONNA SCREW YOU IN FUTURE....so better scrap them before they scrap u.
Take care.

 
At 6:03 PM, Blogger Nelly said...

I actually had somewhat of the same thought last night as I was on my nightly walk...

 
At 6:28 PM, Blogger ishita said...

u never forget ppl who've been a part of ur life...memories cld be good or bad...but i still say regretting doesn't help...i like what u said abt some ppl comin into ur life for a reason...and then moving on...

we don push away ppl deliberately...time and circumstances change...and fact remains, that's just the way life is meant to be...

and of course, sometimes we do outgrow friendships...its hard to face that reality. I know coz i've been there but even in my most forgiving mood...i don regret the choices i may have been forced to take...

if i did, i wld just be hurting myself only

i miss a lot of ppl who i lost touch wid coz of distance and changes....but i am thankful they left me with memories that make me smile and feel blessed...thankful for them being responsible for playing some part in the kind of person i've become....

 
At 6:38 PM, Blogger priya said...

To some friendship continues forever. For others, it can be a testing/ passing time. My male friends asked me, after marriage you will not be the same. I didn't promise, but I atleast do not forget to wish their birthdays, anniversaries so on.
Friednship memories stays but only few friends are ther to remain forever. Its nobody's mistake coz its all timing and where we are.
Remember the good ones and cherish it. If we think we need it, then its painful toa ccept they r not here.

 
At 7:16 PM, Blogger Sush said...

very true.. nothing is deliberate, things just happen.. we just drift along.. I guess that is life.

 
At 8:14 PM, Blogger prithz said...

Ahh!!! That was a wonderful post... i have wondered such things too.. like keshi said, i am on the good side too... sometimes, frnds jsu leave u behind and take different paths, totally forgettin all the past... but i am not the kind whu can simply let go of people... i make sure i am polite and helpful to my frnds... make sure i make a kind, lovable and understanding mate... so that i never hafta lose my frnd... more so, 'coz,i cant afford to lose them...(or that's wat i think)...

 
At 8:21 PM, Blogger lil _kath said...

"Don't be dismayed at good-byes.
A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes,
is certain for those who are friends."

... i had a friend too that im missin' a lot... he left and till now i dun understand why he chose to ;(

... like what Kesh said " it just happens...cos it's just not meant to be for longer than it was supposed to be. "

... it hurts na, why people came, get close to us and then suddenly said goodbye!! so unfair right? but still friendship doesn't end there, u cant just erase it, it'll be there forever!

... what i do sometimes is just remember the good times, the fights, the laughs and it mades me smile at least ;) and i believe that "true friends" come back in certain time.

cheer up sweetie! ^_^

hugss,
-kathy-

 
At 10:29 PM, Blogger Stone said...

Ahhh..such is life, sometimes I wonder it is just abt the friends or its abt the ‘time spent together’; And my conclusion is all about the ‘Time spent together’; otherwise nobody actually disappears, and it not that tough to trackdown somebody but we choose not to, coz time went by never comes back! Or we fear losing memories, or diluting them!!
Hmm..memories, memories memories….some pleasant some unwelcome but they are there, what mind forgets..heart remembers!!

 
At 11:31 PM, Blogger La vida Loca said...

sweet post

 
At 11:56 PM, Blogger How do we know said...

You know.. I have been missing 2 of my friends who just... well, flowed away in that stream called Time, and we did not keep in touch.. your post almost made me cry.. I'm missing them so much!!

 
At 12:18 AM, Blogger starry nights said...

It is sad when we lose friends.I had a friend from nursery to high school and then we just stopped being friends, it was sad. We just got new friends and stopped talking. I alsways think of her and wonder what went wrong. sometimes we cant hold on to friends who want to move on.try as we may.

 
At 12:52 AM, Blogger Pallavi said...

Hey nice post! Dont let go of people who make sense or bring meaning to your life..

 
At 1:13 AM, Blogger Eclipsed Thoughts said...

Seems like it is a dwell-in-past season... same here!

***and then u wonder if it was a good decision to let these friends go away from your lives??.

hmmm, i think letting go and sticking to a relation was much of a "situation" kinda thing then. Whatever it was, those small memories were lifetime isn't it?

***U let them go coz u think that is the best thing to do....coz u dont want them overpowering your entire life and become larger than life itself...

Not always, but YES in many cases.

***coz probably they were the only friends who listened to u, who understood u...accepted u.....

It is sometimes difficult to find ppl who accept you just the way you are.... and of course at those times we miss ppl who accepted us, just like that, like we are.

***And I still wonder why did god get these friends in my life...if they eventually had to go away....what purpose did it serve??...

It made you feel for them, it made you realize that you were understood by some ppl. Even if they are far, you still think of them and miss them. Maybe it makes you more humane and "emotional"

***Maybe I can change the course of things now...or maybe its already too late...

I wud say, YES U CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

 
At 2:14 AM, Blogger White Forest said...

hey ekta, just few days back when i was trying tolet go things..i learnt this....some ppl come into our lives for some period and they jsut go!

may be thats their role in our lives..to come and leave a deep impact on us..!

but plz dont regret!..

if you still want to keep in touch ..you can start all over again!

 
At 5:57 AM, Blogger goldennib said...

People have their own paths to travel. We meet them, it is sweet, to remind us life is good, but then we all move on to complete our destinies.

 
At 6:41 AM, Blogger Dawn....सेहर said...

Amazging post Ekta...! Life is like a journey where we meet many and many times its not only its for us but its also for sometimes others. We think why we met that person if he/she had to go this way but give a thought...may be he/she had gain something after meeting you and probably it gave them the wisdom to move ahead in life...isnt that something to feel blessed with? Think about it and you wont regret in life :)
Cheers babe

 
At 6:43 AM, Blogger qsg said...

I believe people come into our lives at different points to fill a void, a space, a need, or a moment. We are richer for having known them, irrespective of whether the experience was good or bad.

There are enough people I wish I had held on to, but, I also know that they had filled their purpose, and therefore had to go. Nothing is permanent.

 
At 6:47 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Keshi:-Yeah girl u first!:-)..well in this case I deliberately let then go, stayed away on purpose and distanced myself...it wld have been different if it wld have just happened...and hence I wonder if it was the right thing to do?

Samuru:- aww sorry to hear that...well when people change I guess it is time to let them go...but sometimes u do the mistake of deliberately letting people go..and thats what I regret!

Indianangel:- *I always thinks what's ahead of me and the wonderful moments that I'll have for tomorrow! That atleast keeps me enthusiastic and happy *

Indeed thats a wonderful and positive approach to live...guess in a lot of ways memories of the past help us carry through some great times in future.

Deepsat:- *they say life is a journey and friends and are the best companions!! they make the journey memorable. but then we can meet them only when our paths cross. *

So well said...they make the journey worthwhile , unfortunately we meet them just once!:-(

Ektaran:- aha..so beautifully said..what would we do if not for wonderful memories!

Quill:- ooh..sorry to hear that quill and sometimes these things hurt..dont they? U say to urself..maybe I shld have made more effort and called or shld have just written?

Me:- yeah perhaps...

Has to be me:- *All good things in life has to come to an end. Be happy that there r atleast those sweet memories to linger upon now*

Well true..however isnt it also upto us to make all efforts we can to make the good times last as long as possible?

Murali:- *"A true friend is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes the smile on your face*

ooh such a beautiful quote..thx so much for the wonderful comment murali. Indeed thats what a true friend is...someone who can see how u actually feel inside

Manish:- :-) No am not crying..am smiling and trying to keep this smile forever

Christabelle:- *only true friends will leave footprints on ur heart.*

So true..guess even though some people stay in ur life for a small time, the impact they leave lasts a lifetime

Pea:- yeah ur true..sometimes u can take off where u left from , but sometimes the distance creates some bit of silnece between u which we may find difficult to break

Arzoon:- haha..thats a grt idea...i dont have any pets..maybe I shld get one too;-)

Pritika:- *its always gud to let urself n other free.*

Well guess ur right in a way...the best relationship is where both individuals are free..and the relationship succeeds when inspite of that the two choose not to go away

Just me:-*wen people r with u..u cn only look at things dat u dont like abt them..wen they leave u... u can only think abt wat u actually like abt them*

True Indeed we realise the worth of people only when theyr no longer in our lives!

Aditi:- hey thx girl and nope what I meant was that I am still in touch with them but have let them go from my life in terms of the role they used to play in my life earlier...things have changed and although we'r still in touch , things are not the same. I have deliberately distanced myself from them which is what I regret!

Southpaw:- ouch!..that was a strong one..but then again...maybe ur right..coz sometimes some relationships have the power to overpower ur entire life and affect every other relationship!

Nelly:- aha..so I am not the only one;-)

Ishita:- hey ishi...ur right but in this case I made a conssious decision to keep my distance from them and now there is only the silence and gap between us..and that maybe was not the right decision

Priya:- well ur right...marriage and other such phases in ur life can change a lotta aspects in ur life.Especially with marriage when a new relationship is formed and sometimes that impacts the old relationships

sushyam:- maybe ur right..guess life is all abt flowing...

Pritz:- hey thats nice..guess we shld always do whatever we can to hold onto the people who we feel are important to us and then with time if they anywayz go we know we have still done the best we cld to hold onto them

 
At 6:57 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

lil:- hey girl..u got it right..dont understand how some people can just erase the lovely times from their minds and move on as if those times didnt exist...its sad!

Stone:- hey well..its actually about the times we spent together...we always associate people with the good or bad times wev had with them and thats what makes them special to us!

La vida:- thx dear!

How do we:- awww...big huggzzzz...am sorry my post made u cry!!...well guess thats the worst part about such friends...they become so important in our lives that when they leave they leave a void thats difficult to fill

Starry:- awww..sorry to hear that....and somehow i feel friends made during the earlier years of our lives are the ones who really stay with us as special

Pallavi:- hey gorl..yes made the mistake once..wont repeat it again!

Eclipsed:- hey hugzz girl and yes some people make such a difference in ur life even if it is for a short period of time that when things change u can feel that vacuum that they have created.

White forest:- thats exactly what I was pondering over...maybe thats their role in our lives to come , create an impact, maybe even change or or teach us a few things and then go away...maybe to touch other lives...!

Dawn:- thx dawn and spot on..*may be he/she had gain something after meeting you and probably it gave them the wisdom to move ahead in life*

In this case maybe I gained all this from them and the wisdom to step into another phase of my life...

Goldennib:- hey welcome to my blog and indeed its true..we all have to live our own destinies and people stay with us for the time theyr destined to stay!

Gemini:-*I believe people come into our lives at different points to fill a void, a space, a need, or a moment. We are richer for having known them, irrespective of whether the experience was good or bad. *

Bang on..u read my mind..some people just leave a space in your lives. However at the end of it..we do feel richer having known them and feel like wev grown with them and thats probably whey they came to ou lives..to prepare us for the next phase of our lives!

 
At 7:29 AM, Blogger Keshi said...

Ekta if it was you who let em go, then there must have been a good reason? If doing that made u feel better during that time, then just let it be.

But if u did it cos u just wanted to push em away from u for no good reason (which I dun think u will do anyways), then maybe it would be good for u to say Hello to em and find out how they r?


Kath I like what u said.

**A farewell is necessary before you can meet again.

thats so true. And maybe this is the time for u to meet up with them again Ekta.

Good luck!
Keshi.

 
At 7:41 AM, Blogger Mumbai Guy said...

People influence us along our life.

If someone manages to get into our lives, in positive way, then we should make sure we do not forget.

If someone got in our way, in negative way, just kick that person out from memory.

Both of above, Difficult but do'able.

 
At 10:16 AM, Blogger suraj said...

no idea ..yaar....been wondering lately...the same

 
At 10:37 AM, Blogger Abhinav said...

i consider this as one of the lessons we learn in our lifetime ... the only thing matters here is u can cherish the old memories but do not ever drag that past wid coz that will hamper ur future ... i have had some amazing frens which are now foes .. but i still cherish old times but not more than that coz in the end it hurts

 
At 12:07 PM, Blogger Apy said...

Yep.. i agree that those who left made us upset but the good part is that they left behind smthin very valuable .. a memory that u can cherish.. so enjoy what you have...
i know doesn make much sense but.... thats wat i belv... there are smthings u jus cant change...

 
At 12:09 PM, Blogger manuscrypts said...

ever read mitch albom's "The Five People You Meet in Heaven" .. he has an interpretation of life, which is a possible answer to your question.. one of the infinite possible answers..

 
At 1:01 PM, Blogger Disha said...

Well this happens all the time with everybody.... bcoz it is the circle of life. You meet someone,spend some time & move on.

Great thinking.....
Enlighten the world:)

 
At 1:42 PM, Blogger AlterinG Abhishek said...

It is astonishing for us to even try and comprehend.. that our life is part of such a big plan/puzzle...
We should Marvel at the beauty of it..
and enjoy it..
instead of worrying..why and where which piece is not fitting!!

 
At 3:05 PM, Blogger lovemarks said...

Nice post-made everyone get up and think...then remember some...!

What you said expressed a lot of sentiments that most of us have, tucked somewhere inside us and we dare not let them out in fear of our frailty to even accept them; leave aside question or seek answers from.

Cheerios!:)

 
At 3:09 PM, Blogger SwissTwist said...

Hi
Thank you for the lovely comment left on my blog, it's nice to know someone out there (and so far away is reading it!)
I've just spent the past 2 hours ignoring work and trying to catch up on your life, it's been a very interesting read so far, and I look forward to reading more.

Good luck with the meds and docs, I'm so dreading my tests tomorrow!, if you need a sympathetic and empathetic ear, I'm just a comment away.

Ciao
Marisa

 
At 3:23 PM, Blogger Jenn said...

It's weird that you should have stopped by my blog today and this is the first post of yours I should see. I basically spent the year wondering about people who dropped out of my life. I once wrote this thing about friends...where some of them stick around and form part of my support and as for others, we meet, merge and move on.

I was once sad about this, but then realised that it was in letting go that I got to keep them.

When you demand Eternity from the moment, all you get is disappointment. But maybe, when you take the moment for what it's got and demand nothing else besides, you get Eternity.

Anyway, the ones I really loved, the ones I missed terribly, somehow, years down the road, they reappear and we take up where we left off.

 
At 4:01 PM, Blogger Aparna said...

meeting n parting is one bitter truth of r life..... and splly if the person is emotionally attached to us.. or we r very attached to him then parting is even more painful but then we have to face it bravely. But one thing i would like to add... never regret on ur decisions.. never do that.... bcoz that will shake ur confidence in urself.. always respect ur decisions bcoz at that pont of time u took that dceision acc to some situations which were diff from todays' . So plz never regret... keep smiling dear :-)

 
At 4:52 PM, Blogger Harry said...

Gr88 Post!!
Dear, there r certain things which happen in front of us and v have to bear it...v r helpless in this regard except taking away the memories of these things...
v curse the God for resulting this...bt this is the life...
life is not only of gud xperiences..
sometimes sour xperiences also teach u something which u will never learn from the gud xperiences...
I remember one of my close friends who is no more with me..I just rememeber the swt moments spent with him and make myself happy for a moment..
I can't dwell on such memories all of my life...
Instead,I shud cherish the forthcoming moments..I cherish those pleasurable and treasurable moments...
Harry

 
At 4:53 PM, Blogger Contented said...

Hey Girl! very interesting post! I know very well how it feels to let go friends!

I read some onliner it goes saying "Friendship is a pretty full-time occupation if you really are friendly with somebody. You can't have too many friends because then you're just not really friends"

 
At 5:53 PM, Blogger karmic_jay said...

Been thinking about that lately, since a blogger buddy asked me, if I had any skeletons in my closet.
Well who doesn't? It led to memories that had been pushed away in to the recesses of my mind.
And they had to be dredged up.
It's also part of the whole rewind and review process that so characterizes our lives.
In some cases letting go was the right thing to do and in some it was not in my hands.
But thats life, they brought me moments and memories that I treasure.
Although as the Pearl Jam song says it best..
I got memories.. I got sh**..

 
At 7:27 PM, Blogger Yashita said...

will u believe me if I tell u that I had the same question last week! really, why does god bring these ppl in our life when they have to leaves us eventually? I don't want them to go! and I try my best to hold onto...but things just slip past ur fungers and get washed by the waves...and then it's too late...

 
At 8:05 PM, Blogger Pri said...

u r a mind reader ekta,...thts exactly wht im feelin at this exact point of time :(

 
At 8:39 PM, Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

You ask why? May be to give us memories that can sustain a lifetime.

 
At 9:35 PM, Blogger dumbdodi said...

Hi Ekta..thanks for stopping by on my blog
A cliched quote probably but goes well with your post
'If you love something let it go, If it comes back its yours if not it never was'
I have lost friends too, saddest part is don't know where and how...just lost them..forever...

But they will remain in my heart and my memories

a very good post

 
At 1:07 AM, Blogger Meg said...

This was very beautifully written. I think we have all experienced that at some point in our lives. Gods funny that way...sometimes he lets us in on his plan, sometimes not..things just happen and we have to believe they are for the best. Those people came into your life at that time in your life, for a purpose - just trust in that and worry less about trying to figure out why. Take care!!

 
At 8:50 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Keshi:- Hey thx keshi girl and yes i did have a reason for letting them go and yes I too admire what they have brought into my life! I do hope I can cathc up with them again!

Mumbai:- absolutely...however like u said difficult but doable.Unfortunately I have left those who brought a positive influence on my life out and thats what one feels bad about!

Suraj:- let me also know if u find the answers!:-)

Abhinav:-Agree its one of the lessons we learn along the journey of life...to let go what we cant influence anymore!

Apy:- so true apy...they indeed have left us with the gift of some very precious memories along the way and we do cherish them even though the people are no longer with us!

Manuscrypts:- hey No havent read this one..but if ur suggesting its a good read will defi try and pick it up!

Disha:-Well said...its indeed the circle of life and sometimes we reach exactly where we started out from!

Alter:-*We should Marvel at the beauty of it..and enjoy it..*

Indeed...unfortunately sometimes its easier said that done..however all all hold on to the lovely memories of the past!

Lovemarks:- thank you lvoe...but guess sometime each one of us does need to ask these questions to ourselves to make sure we dont repeat the same mistakes again!

Swiss:- hey swiss..well dont worry..u'll be ok soon. All the best for your tests and hope u dont need to see the docs anymore...its a very painful process indeed!

Jenn:- Hey Jenn welcome to my blog
*When you demand Eternity from the moment, all you get is disappointment. But maybe, when you take the moment for what it's got and demand nothing else besides, you get Eternity.*

U summed it up soo beautifully...very beautiful thot indeed..something to think about!

Aparna:- well ur right that we shldnt regert anything in life...but sometimes by regretting u realise ur mistakes and it ensures that u dont make the same mistakes again!

Harry:-*I can't dwell on such memories all of my life...
Instead,I shud cherish the forthcoming moments..I cherish those pleasurable and treasurable moments...*

Ur right..sometimes we do need to let go compeltely..and its important coz as long as we keep holding on to our past we will never be able to enjoy and cherish our past and look forward to our future

Contended:- *"Friendship is a pretty full-time occupation if you really are friendly with somebody. You can't have too many friends because then you're just not really friends" *

Sooo true...indeed...and its so perfect with me..its always been like for me..have always founf it difficult to focus my energy at 10 different people at a time...for me its 1-2 people to whom I give my all!

Karmic:- *It's also part of the whole rewind and review process that so characterizes our lives.*

Absolutely..in fact its funny how life goes...it goes ahead and then yet again..keeps brining you back to where u started from...strange!

Yashita:- well guess thats the point..am not the only one..most of us have gone thru these experiences and we all are looking for answers and some even for these people left behind!

Pri:- Hah am i..well looks like too many people have the same thots around!

M:- :-( maybe M..but sometimes memories just dont seem enough!

Dumbdodi:- *'If you love something let it go, If it comes back its yours if not it never was' *

This quote fits in perfectly here and indeed is true about people...guess some people come into our life to go away eventually!

Meg:- Absolutely meg...guess god has his own ways..just wish we cld understand it...some people come to our life to give us some beautiful moments and guess that would be gods gift to us to cherish forever!

 
At 9:12 AM, Blogger my life.... said...

i am hurt as well...sometimes ppl come into our life to make our life better...some for the worse...i had a taste of both sides...but some come and go for a short period of time...how do you define such relationship? frenz? acquitance?

 
At 10:17 AM, Blogger QuillDancer said...

You have proven that friendship is a very powerful thing -- look at the number of comments this topic has generated!

As we grow older our group of friends seems to grow smaller. Life, career, marriage, family -- they become more important than friends. It is sad, but there is only so much tinme in a day. Good friendships, like good marriages, require work and compromise from both parties.

The good news is -- at least according to my elders -- as you grow older still and your children begin building their own families, you widen your circle of friends again.

Also, I thought about what I said about not losing many childhood friends -- I grew up in a very small town and only a handful of us (me included) moved away. I can go back and see them working in -- in many cases now owning -- their parents' businesses. I was luckier than most in that respect. Cities make staying in touch even more difficult.

 
At 10:33 AM, Blogger Dalicia said...

too late for me to do anything..even if i regretted it! oh well!

 
At 10:54 AM, Blogger Ravi said...

This is the way its meant to be. I think of this world and life in general to be moving around in cycles. Too much of just one thing gets too boring. I know this sounds very cruel when applied to friends. But you cannot change the circumstances. Things happen. People move around and friendships just sort of melt away. You dont need to blame yourself for that.

Think about it this way. Suppose there is one snack you like the most and possibly cannot live without. Now assume that it is not fatenning and provides all that is needed in terms of nutritional requirements. Now would you be able to eat only that and nothing else throughout your remaining life? Eventually you would start hating it. I know with friends it is much more complex, but still the analogy applies.

As many have put before me, how would you get the immense joy of meeting long lost friends again if you do not let them go in the first place?

Phew! I have given enough gyan for the day which is silly because I myself am cluless in many of my relationships. Time for me to find some of my lost friends on orkut. I hope you use it too.

 
At 12:45 PM, Blogger The Inquisitive Akka said...

There are some people who I used to be close to and then something happened and they just moved away. The reasons were usually trivial but they are gone now and although we stay in touch its very formal. I know it will never go back to the way it was and that's hard to accept.

 
At 1:23 PM, Blogger Known Stranger said...

with your permission Sir, as it is used often in Mitary when a junior who has earned the trust of a higher up , wants to excute one assult - i say " with your permission madam - i using your post for my personal letter.

i want to let you know - you really made me get tears in my eyes.

 
At 1:27 PM, Anonymous Soums said...

Thoughtful post...I agree on the fact that no matter how hard we try, there will be a few regrets like this, maybe it's good in a way, 'coz it makes you count your blessings even more. Also makes you hold on and do more with the people you still have...Getting back to a friend is difficult, it takes two to tango...Quite easy to put all this to destiny, but in reality it's all about choice, it's what you chose then and it's what you're choosing now.

 
At 4:34 PM, Blogger Nahuatl said...

And I still wonder why did god get these people in my life...if they eventually had to go away....what purpose did it serve??....maybe I know maybe I dont....
So true.. and so sad.
Sometimes I wonder too.

Nice blog.

 
At 6:02 PM, Blogger Aparna said...

Wow.. reading this post just hit home... I am a army kid and every 2 yrs we wld move frm one part of the country to another ... in the process I lost in touch with many (some of who made huge difference in my life).. when I think of them.. i often wonder if they wld remember me....
Yah.. and I sometimes miss them so terribly, coz some people as u said just leave a mark behind

 
At 6:11 PM, Blogger Nida said...

:-)

Some people come in life for a Reason and some for a Season.
But, the people who come for a reason only just come for a season.
(did that make sense?)
Letting someone go out of your life, is a big step,but then you can never forget them.
Its a Sentimental life :)

 
At 8:08 PM, Blogger my life.... said...

hey, thanks for the vouch of promotion of my country, Singapore, in tha previous posts...yeah Singapore is a great place to live attributing to its diversity of food places here...yummy....hope u enjoyed yr trip here

 
At 10:13 PM, Anonymous harinik said...

ok...i'm not the only one to wonder about this.

 
At 10:39 PM, Blogger preetishere said...

Hiiii...

thanks a ton for dropping by on ma blog....which has made me land on this very sweet blog..i like your flow of lang and the friendly ambience...

gtr posts..read them all(not exactly all,the last 7 to 8 posts)..grt pics...

will definitly keep hopping:)

ba-byeee

 
At 11:19 PM, Blogger ~RAUL~ said...

Damn!!!
totally true...but then I guess if sometimes we hadn't let them go life would have been more regretfull...

Yeah this post brings loads of burried stuff back.
Life was good then...

 
At 2:59 AM, Blogger Astral said...

NICE POST..... touched some sensitive chords. thats what life is all about, even i wonder y did it happen and just keep wondering...

~*~ And I still wonder why did god get these people in my life...if they eventually had to go away....what purpose did it serve??~*~ Very true. Y r good times like seasons.....

~*~ For now memories linger of those who got left behind.....~*~ And make us cry and smile at the same time as we miss them and think of the good times we shared.... Is it really meant to be??

Cheers. GOD bless. Take care.

 
At 4:34 AM, Blogger Rohini said...

anyone who says they have a regret-free life is lying through their teeth...

 
At 12:11 PM, Blogger How do we know said...

hey .. I tag you!

 
At 5:13 PM, Blogger rachana said...

hi ekta, nothing to say actualy ,,i wonder life is like that to almost all of us?? liked ur post like anything!

 
At 7:31 PM, Blogger Gotta Be Max said...

Try to hold not the people you meet
try instead to hold thee memories

try as we may hard
things don't always go our way
angels come and make a difference
and then they move away

try to hold not those
who are like a feather
but keep them in your mind
the memories not wither

 
At 12:16 AM, Blogger Shuba said...

the issue here is u want them or not...if u want them never let them go....at times few relationships are not so needed inthat case it better we miss them!

 
At 3:54 AM, Blogger Sudeep said...

very true.. n it hurts a lot

btw, tht song was asava sundar chocolate cha bungalow
u know marathi?

 
At 7:59 PM, Blogger Parag said...

Hey Ekta.. Very touching post.. I liked it a lot.. People are like pages of a book.. you read past it but the thought lingers..
I got pretty inspired by this post.. and wrote a small poem on the subject.. have quoted you there too (hope you don't mind) ..

 
At 8:50 PM, Blogger Saira said...

hmmm...well written..know what ive lost many people in life either it be friends or loved ones....and that too at a young age..now although i dont regret anything but im very insecure about relations...another thing the purpose for letting them come into our lives is to make us learn to see whats wrong and wats right...

 
At 10:58 PM, Blogger Gaurav Jain said...

Friends come and go... all we can do is make the best of the moment we're with them!

 
At 3:24 PM, Blogger Sush said...

And I was thinking it only happens with me...

Sometimes we just tend to distance ourselves from a few people for no reason at all... priorities keep changing and we cannot keep up and nurture each and every relationship and give everyone the same kind of attention all the time... it is best that we just keep moving I guess...

Great post!!!

 
At 12:21 AM, Blogger Gotta Be Max said...

The best things in life are the toughest! That is what makes them pleasant and pleasing to the heart.

 
At 9:38 AM, Blogger Kroopa Shah (Kr00pz) said...

Because letting go is moving on. And if you have to move on, you must let go...

 
At 5:12 PM, Blogger soulstirringexperiences said...

Hey Ekta,
Just chanced upon ur blog ...I guess u are taking a break from expressing urself ...which is good ...one needs to sit back and re charge ones self before they leap back with lots more wonderful things to express...about this post. Don't know if u are aware of the concept of Reason, Season and Lifetime ... every one who comes into our lives falls in one of these categories ...if u spare time try reading an aricle on the same subject on my blog ...it may answer your question.

Cheers !
Payal

 

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