Planoholic
Ok...so big deal....everyone is like me....or atleast 10% people are like me (same thing).....and yeah am a planoholic....!!
Well over the past 1.5 yrs...to be specific since marriage( and since I had to start sharing my home, room, bed, bedsheets etc etc with someone else)...have realised I am a planoholic....I plan..almost...EVERYTHING...its like I almost know how my day tomorrow is gonna go coz I run thru it a day before in my mind.....!
I know whats gonna be made for lunch/dinner the next day and maybe the day after next too..
What I am going to do first thing in the morning and after I reach office...
What clothes and shoes I am gonna wear for the next three days....
My schedule on return from office till I go to sleep....
When I will take my medicines the next day(pre/post dinner)...
How much time I will spend in the loo and taking a bath(yes I have clocks in both Bathrooms)....etc etc....
And well yeah...planning is one thing....but I get really(I mean really ) upset if for some reason things dont go as planned.....maybe its a fetish....but hubby dear has been bearing the brunt of it.
Example ...while leaving for office in the morning one day I got dressed and Hubby dear remarked that the outfit I wore for some reason wasn't suiting me..!!..I went in and changed and after that sulked for 10 minutes and then demanded that Hubby dear tell me exactly why the dress wasnt suiting me when it suited others!!!.
After some exchange of words...I accepted the agitation was not for the dress but coz Hubby dear had upset my "plan" to wear that dress....it wasnt important if I looked bad in that dress...it was more important that my plans dont get screwed!
Ok so maybe this is a compulsive behaviour....or what the heck am a psycho...sue me!:-)
Am I the only one around?
70 Comments:
Hey Planoholic...same is the case here...atleast wrt the lunch/dinner menu....
so u plan out ur wardrobe for 3 days in advance...thats a lil strange.....
clocks in the bathrooms...arre vaha toh aaram se RELAX kar liya karo :P....a hot steaming shower ke beech mein ek gaadi..nahinnnnnnnn
You seem to be an Organized person....hai kya??
Yes. Yes, u are :)
No, you are absolutely not the only one. I am just like that. I like things to go exactly as planned. Even when we go out to run errands, I have the order of shops that we will go to all planned out in my head and it really pisses me off if there is a change of plans…
Ok see I am a compulsive planner as well. I plan but then being me, I also have backup plan A and backup plan B. While its not down to the miniscule of what to wear etc, but then I might get there someday.
A few years ago I thought I'd throw caution to the wind and try living unplanned.. but even that became a plan to not plan.. hehe needless to say didnt work. Now i plan but try to stay calm should things not go according to the plan..
I hope that made sense.. but bathroom clocks.. see I have been demanding those but my family just laughts at me.. I will have them when I have my own place.. it makes sooo much more sense
Sometimes it happens that you feel very upset and disappointed when things dont go according to your plans. I suppose Planning is compulsory in ourlives. I wont say I am very much of Planoholic but will surely plan things what I have to do next either with work or with daily routine.
Oh!!! My dad and mom would have loved to have a daughter like ya!!! I am not so planaholic, i make some plans for the future(like, i am gonna do this after i study), but not the "immidiate" future you are talking abt. I would probably, plan that "ok, i am goin to wash my clothes this weekend and visit this person on this date"... but generally, such plans dutn work wid me...
Even with studies, such weekly plannin has not worked.... so i better kill it :)
You aint the only one around :D
Poor Anand....hehehe.
Ye.. Mrs. Jay is big on plans. She is just better organized and efficient. She also likes lists :)
It's ok to be that I guess as long as one does nto kill the spur or the moment impulsive thing.
clocks in bathrooms.. errr.. i take the batteries out of the one in the main room so tht i rule the time
i wish i could plan so much..
u both guys really scare me of the idea of marriage :( .. wht if i get a wife who is planhloi.. now m forgetting tht spelling too... jeez!
are u & anand like some parallel couple in a distant universe.
boy! so similar
Great dude..! What can be better thn living a well organized life !
Planning is a less demanding service to ourselves which gives extravagant outcomes...but besides the good part of planning...there are sum bad parts aswell...If u knw everything u are going to do tommorow..and if u plan so well each day..tht there is nothing which remains concealed...or nothing hidden ..for which u wuld look forward for the other day to come soon..thn your life will gradually turn into a boring piece..u'll feel each day is a boring challenge..and excitment will evaporate!
This is the reason y nature sumtimes disfollows its own plans...for eg. the forcast is mentioning the day to be bright ..but somehow natures chnges its plan..and the rain wets us ! This is how it makes life excited..and interesting...sum things happening unpredictably..sumtimes not following our own schedules...sumtimes chnging our own minds on several stuffz..so tht a bit spice can remains in..or else..everything is so dull!
Hey thanks for dropping by! You sound like Monica from Friends! :)
I think it is a good trait to have because you are so organized, as for me I am not a planaholic, I wish I was. everything gets done and done well I have to say in the last minute.I work better under stress.I wish I was like you though.
okay this is me....everytime someone is visiting, be it for two days or a month, we make an excel spread sheet with everyday planned out as far as what we're doing and what we're eating. Right down to breakfast, lunch and dinner to everyplace we are taking them out. And we try to stick to it with little room for exceptions. Any changes have to be made atleast 3 days in advance for me to be comfortable. I hate last minute plans and decisions. And I don't adapt well to change. Freaky? May be. So I understand your planoholism, absolutely :)
Hey
thats a great trait.. u are so organized... i am just the opposite, least bothered... i usually dont know what will i do the next minute!!! lol... but it is good to be organized.
and yeah, even i lose my temper when someone forces me to be a bit organized... so i guess, intensity is the same but the opposite frequency!!!
take care... hugzzz
Hey...Having clocks at the restroom...Hearing tht for the first time actually....
I used to plan too but not this agressively...I wont really feel bad if my hubbs tells me something is not fine, I will just go n change as I keep a couple of options open.
Even with meals I have a couple of options open n I am no great cook so donot need a complusive planning guide...
Shoes come naturally as per the attire...Even the dress, I just think about it and not stress over it that thts the only course as I would just get pisssed if it didnt work tht way like u went sulking.
hi ekta..to plan is good but to go mad about plans is crazy!!
"It happens in our lives when our plans fail and thought process derail..."
"or atleast 10% people are like me (same thing)"
I think it's around 50%, assuming 50% of population is women. :)
If you can stretch your neck out and look at the last point on the opposite side of your 'i plan everything in my life' continuum - you will find me sitting there !
I know a couple of people who are very uncomfortable with change - and i often wonder - is it that for people who can tolerate change...life throws up crazy situations to encounter knowing that they will somehow deal with it OR is it that people who encounter crazy situations learn to lap up change...which is the cause and which is the effect?
Planning what you are going to have for dinner on Friday, when it is just Monday mrng...oh dear !!! Anand...you have patience !!!
Planning is good. Planning is the only way we can reach the goal in a good way. But planning to this extent...!!! Lady you are all alone and I am sueing you !!!
Sorry Anand !!
*prash laughs out loud*
hey...........thats gud on u!!!I really appreciate it!!!Cos i generally do things in the last minute...so i feel u r the best!!!
*/Am I the only one around?*/
No you are not. Same with me. I plan the breakfast, lunch, dinner, the dress I should wear but the Clock in the bathroom, mm...sounds interesting. May be I should do that :-)
I don't know about you, but like planning my vacations too. There's nothing wrong with it.:)
hmm..I make plans...and break plans and then whine!
ektaran:-Well like I said..I plan everything!!!..and yeah clocks in the bathroom..u see in need to keep a time limit..else i just keep enjoying the hot water baths!
Angeldust:- ooh damn!!..but then hey..that means theres noone else like me..am different..hehe;-)
Rohini:- Oh am not!order of shops..oh yes..I do the same..usually when I go shopping I have the whole sequence in my head and it happens so naturally that I dont even stress over it!
Aditi:- hey sooo nice tos ee u are a compulsive planner too...somebody understands me..
*I will have them when I have my own place.. it makes sooo much more sense *
Do that girl...trust me u'll do much better on ur time that way!
Contented:- Oh yes...like I said I get upset most times when things dont go as planned...but then thats me:-)!
Pritz:-*Even with studies, such weekly plannin has not worked*
ooh when I was studying I used to have a complete time table..especially for exams..when how much, how...etc etc...yeah am a psycho!
Me:- ohh thx me..hugggzzz!!!
Suji:- oh yes..I pity him too!:-)
Karmic:- Oh I love list too!!..I am a listomaniac...Ud see most of my posts also have bullet pts!:-)
And ur right...there is a thin line between excessive planning and killing impulsiveness...I hope I still have the impulsive streak in me!
Sudeep:- *u both guys really scare me of the idea of marriage *
heheahahahah...aa jao..aa jao..another one bites the dust...think again u dont know what ur getting into...heheh*evil laugh*
Hawkeye:- haha..hey maybe...for all u know ur wife maybe my "twin sister" who got seperated in a mela!!
Gumnaam:- *This is the reason y nature sumtimes disfollows its own plans*
Hey wow gumnaam thats a beautiful analogy...and so very true..a lot oftimes nature is so unpreductable and defies its own plans..teaching us to deal with uncertainity..however the idea of plans is to kill ths uncertainity to whatever extent possible!
Gangadhar:- Oh u did...so do u sulk too??
Grey:- Oh my god grey!!!...All my frds in bangalore used to call me monica..coz they thot I was obssesed with perfection...!!ur bang on!..Welcome to the blog!
Starry:-hehehe u sound soo like my hisband..hes king at doing things at the last minute and then I literally feel like pullinh his hair out at all the chaos he creates!
M(tread...):- Hey wow....I am sooo sooo sooo like u...U know anand and me had prepapred an xl sheet of tasks to be done by both of us when I started working too and this was put up on the fridge so both of us cld see!!...haha..it didnt work was a different case coz hubby dear always found some way of evading work!.
But I become a freak when I have guests!!
Eclipsed:-*i usually dont know what will i do the next minute!!*
Aww..wellI think usually planning happenes over long term..yes even I dotn know what I am going to do next minute but I do know what am gonna do when I go home..
Guess people are different and some people thrive at last minute planning!
Scribblez:- *Hey...Having clocks at the restroom...*
Is it?..well I realised that I used to get so carried away while taking baths that I used to end up late to office and hence the clock which helps me cut my bath short!
Rachana:- *to plan is good but to go mad about plans is crazy!!*
agreee..I think I need to get a lot more impulsive!!
Twisted:- heheh 10%..50% same thing da!
Reshma:- lol...but good question..guess the reason we are all made so differently is so that we can handle different types of situations and the world becomes a morwe interesting place to live in with different people adding method to the madness!
Pras:- *Lady you are all alone and I am sueing you !!! *
oh damn..I asked for it..didnt I!! But wait till u get married...most women after marriage get crazier..heheh..(have I scared u enugh)
Our email Ids are:-ekta.mukati@gmail.com
anand.mukati@gmail.com
Shubha:- awww...soo sweet thats such a emcouraging comment..atleats someone feels am not a psycho!
Yadayada:- hehe...yeah yeah u shld try the clocks..and i have a patent on this idea!:-)
Raindrop:- haha..after all this planning u think I'll take it easy on vacations..I am a compulsive planner dear..and no vacations are also not spared!!
Stone:- bad bad..but guess sometimes plans are meant to be broken!:-)
Planoholic or not...the poor hubby gets blammed mostly...lol
... hehe cute Ekta ** feel like huggin' u dear ** hugsss u ^_^
... i can relate sweetie though i dun plan like u do *grin*
... but feelin' upset too everytime hubby says my dressed dun suit me blah blah blah!like Anand lol!!
... he want me to be sexy only at home and not for goin' outside haha...selfish creature right?? ^_^ *smiles*
... but i do wear my fave clothes when hes not around esp.when im w/ my bestfriend and when were goin' out for lunch... i'll wear my fave skirt and quite sexy blouse aww! or low waist jeans and fit shirt haha...^_^
silent revenged lol!... ^_^ he will kill me if he know it shhhh!
... we should enjoy our girlie things fashion na esp. this summer!
..dun worry dear, ur not alone and ur definitely ok! there's no wrong of planning things... i admired u rather coz im not that type!
so dun be stressed anymore when Anand say something about ur dressed hehe ^_^ its bad for ur heart, just give him ur sweetest smile and do the revenge for giving him the softest pillow to sleep outside later at night haha...lol!
Anand will kill me for this ^_^ lucky im in Tokyo not in Hongkong duhh!!
...muaahh..enjoy weekend guys! *wink*
luv ya!
cheers,
kathy-
for me, i make plans ahead of time. especially for appointments. i hate it when ppl cancel on me when i tell them ahead of time.
timing is everything with me. i hate to be late..and i hate ppl who are late.
i hate to wait for ppl who i don't what they're doing so many hours in the bathroom!! :P
A little OCD goes a long way in Life.
For instance;when you walk into a movie theatre you know where all of the fire exits are and you have already eliminated several available seats because they are located near the ladies that are going to talk about every frickin' detail concerning their entire lives throughout the entire movie, the smelly guys, the pig in the 5th row who is going to chew his popcorn with his mouth wide open (WHY???), the lovebirds who are going to shuffle and giggle, and located the perfect seats between the film students who will remain motionless for two hours and the couple having a domestic dispute that prohibits them from uttering a single word to each other.
So don't worry about it.
hey gal, thanks for yr encouraging words..i do appreciate it...well...its a little strange that u have clocks in yr shower room...haha...and i am still unmarried and the thought that i have to share everything with the other half sometimes puts me into thinking " is this wat i call life partner?" most of the things i plan ( for instance i teach) don t turn out the way i want...its good to plan but if all the things we plan turns well, then i guess life would be boring!
You really shoudn't be planning to the minutest details like 2/3 days for dinner and clothes. And more important, one should not get mad if there is change of plan. Cheers..life is too short.
Am I the only one around? No, here is also the same happening, i will make the plan before day, what all we should do tommarrow. if some disturbance comes, i dont know how to adjust the plan. u now i am a time saver, times for eat, read, watching tv, movies ect... Nice example:)
i would say it is not the same for me soemtimes...i make all plans ...and soemtimes ..freinds come over..and screw up all the plans..so i welcome i tsoemtimes..but sometimes its really annoying as i have to plan it again! :|
Hey YOU!
Must say, can't really relate... but then again I don't got much going on to plan either. lol Everything that happens is more or less spontaneous.
If planning clothes and food three days in advance tickles your fancy, then it tickles your fancy, and there’s nothing wrong in it:)
YOu didn't scare me at all...I like scarey people..and btw, only the fools don't change...
I just sent you guys an e-mail.
no ur not.
was gonna give u a *same pinch* but nah for me it only comes to doing things...but not clothes.
my roomie however will be ur twin in this case.
hehe that's so cute ekta..
well mez don't do plan much coz in past i used to do loads of planning i felt like i need meditation classes coz things doesn't go like planning na lol....still i do but for specific things n it never happen u know
now i have this notion if i plan anything than things which has to be happen for sure will also not happen coz i plan na...*sob* i promised i'll never plan i'm being superstious now hehe
Wow, I should take some pointers from you!!I keep thinking I should plan but I don't manage it, my natural laziness tends to take over :( The only thing I plan is lunch because food's terribly important to me :) If I don't eat a good lunch then I feel depressed and can't work efficiently:)
planning is as natural as dreaming.
when you know that something is coming up, or you are expecting something to happen, the mind kicks in to high gear and it starts devising plans and ways to handle these 'upcoming' events.
its ok.
u r not alone.
deja vu feeling @ "its like I almost know how my day tomorrow is gonna go coz I run thru it a day before in my mind.....!"
i am the same, like i will b e thinking, wat will i do right from the time i step into office n then leave office for home...it is all planned a day earlier...
the only time when my planning fails is when i plan someplace to travel...
:-)
KJ
It's not crazy. It's just the smart thing to do. Planning makes the day go by smoother. I"m like you with these things.
weclome to the gang..!!
If it makes you feel any better....my entire work week is planned-meals,snacks and gym times.
Everyday I carry my laptop,gym bag,handbag(for the wallet,lipstic and sundries) and a lunch cooler.Have stashed a pair of sneakers/flip flops in the car.
Whoa .. Thats heights..lol... in my case if at all i plan something, it will neva go as planned ..something or the other will screw it up.... so i stopped planning long ago...hehe
Southpaw:- heheh..u seem to have experienced it!;-)
Lil:- awww thx..but hey whats this..why does hubby not let u be sexy outside...not fair!!..Thankfully hubby dear has no problem with me wearing anything of that sort..its more something which is not looking nice...may even be a salwar kameez...and yeah grt idea sweety abt the soft pillow!!
Elaine:- *i hate to be late..and i hate ppl who are late*
Oops...then sweety am not much of ur kinds..ur gonna hate me too..but am not soo bad..i mean after marriage have improved on the time bit..coz hubby dear is very particular abt time!
Homo:- haha..thats a grt example..although I never tried planning while go to the movies but now with ur idea I think I shall apply it there too..heheh!:-)
My life:- haha..dont worry dear...once u get married u'll figure out what sharing life with a partner is all abt..quite an eye opener I must say:-)..
*...its good to plan but if all the things we plan turns well, then i guess life would be boring! *
I agree on that one..although am a planned person...I love surprises as well..keeps the thrill of life going!
Mumbai Guy:- I know:-(..but kya karoon..aadat hai na!
Jeevan:- yupiie..glad to know there are so many like me around...join the gang!
White:- Well guess ur right everyone has his own ways and sometimes frds do irritate me when they upset my plans..but what the heck!
Sugababee:- aah..well what to do..I am like this only..and like u said...if no planning tickles ur taste buds...then so be it for u!:-)
Prash:- ok so then when I meet u I shall be dressed as a scary bhoot!!...we replied to ur mail sir!
Aliie:- ooh..am so glad to hear ur a madgirl too..same pinch to uuuuu!!
Nitika:- oooh thats bad..well its scary at times that when u plan so perfectly for certain things...its these very thinsg that get screwed up badly!!
Akka:- haha..yeah yeah maybe I should start a "how to plan consultancy" and then will give my "tips" for a price..maybe a box of chocs or ice cream..what say??;-)
Raghav:- *the mind kicks in to high gear and it starts devising plans and ways to handle these 'upcoming' events.
its ok.*
ahh...sooo true..thats exactly how it happens...I dont really sit and think that I need to plan...but the mind just starts working on its own!!...finally someone understands this!:-))
KJ:- awww kj hugs...maybe we'r twins who got seperated in some mela..??
Linny:- I like the way uv put it.."smart thing to do"..am a smartie..heheh!
Justme:- hey thx...there seem to be more and enugh madcaps like me!
La vida:- hahah...boy u seem to be a worse sample than me..haha..but whatever works with u!:-)
I was like u Ekta...planned everything and anything..I still do a lil bit and I sooo wanna be near-perfect - to a certain extent it's ok but not if it goes overboard that it makes ur life miserable. Now I chill, take it easy and dun plan much...just lets things unfold on it's own :) Im so much happier now...
**)...have realised I am a planoholic
lol take it easy girl.
And Anand stopped ya from wearing that dress cos u looked too darn sexy in it ;-)
Keshi.
Hey .. i jus checked ur reply to my comment in las post..n u called me a Girl there :((((
Dayam!!... u din see my profile or wat...
ooh sorry apy..sooo sorry!!!
I just goofed up..i do read every single post of urs..in fact just commented on ur pav bhaji:-)
But for some reason it felt like apy was a girl..so sorry..from now on its gonna be dude!:-)
i say never be complete, i say never be content. evolve. let the chips fall where they may.
go where the wind takes you ekta. fz
:) Yeah she happens to be my fav character in Friends! So you were in Blore eh? Read a couple of your earlier posts and man they made me laugh! :)
I can totally understand. I need my day fully planned out too. I can't just sit there and chill. :D
nope, you have loads of company :)
Great post! I can so relate. My thing is I plan and plan and prioritize and make agendas, etc...and then I go out to blogland and all that goes to hell...ha ha. Good stuff tho:)
Keshi:- Hey its so amazing that so many of us are alike...planning maniacs and ur perfectly right..important thing is how not to let it go overboard!
And nope..thankfully Hubby dear wants me to wear sexy clothes!;-)
Dee:- *i say never be complete, i say never be content. evolve. let the chips fall where they may.*
wah wonderful quote..and very true..guess its all about going with the flow!
Grey:- hey wow..so am ur fav blogger..eh?;-)....and yeah was in bangalore for 3.5 yrs!...Glad u enjoyed reading them!
Sayesha:- arre good..one more joins the gang!
Manuscrypts:- hehe..looks like...seems like have the bloggers are planning freaks!
Meg:- aww..hehe but we'd rather have u blogging than making super plans..!:-)
Thats great then Ekta :)
Keshi.
*sigh*...not me...i plan but m quite ok wid changes and don get worked up wen things go acc to plan...so long as i can get back on track...!
oh but u shud see my dad!...it's all there listed out the previous evening...and the following day has to go JUST AS PLANNED!....scaryyy!:p...bet if i forwarded this post to him, he'd be telling me...there see why can't u learn from this! ...!!!!:)
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, they call it !! LOL, I am one too !!
-PeAcE
--WiTh
---GuNs
wow ijn my world...no!..i am the total opp of the planaholic thingy!..maybe marriage does tht to ppl:P
Hey Planoholic...even i was like u...i used to plan everything be4hand...i used to decide at wht time i wil go to bed,whether I will meet my frnds or not,whether I will go for shopping or not,blah blah...
bt it really used to hurt if I cudn't be able to roll out something according to my plans...
now i have changed myself...
I live day at a time rather than making plans beforehand...
I believe pre-planning is always good if u can materialise the plans or u can give ur 100% to roll it out..thn it better serves the purpose...
hey Anand,dnt be so rude buddy....poor Ekta..he he he...
Everone is a 'planaholic'..well let me take my words back, maybe not everyone, i know some blokes who don't care, they just live :).
Im the planning jerk! i think about the future more than i do something in it :). at times i change my mind , at times i just can't :).
keshi:- Oh yes girl..its a blessing!
Ishita:- heheh...give me ur dad's address..think am gonna send this post to him...hehe..sadistic pleasures!:-)
Guns:- U'll be glad to know it seems there are many like us..worlds a crazy place!
And just how do u intend to craete peace with guns!
Why Am I:- yeah yeah I think so too!..think marriage drives u crazy!;-)
harry:- hmm..so ur a new leaf now..well my prob is i dunno if I want to change myself completely..Id like to retain some bit of planning streak in me..but just learn to get a little more adventurous with plans!
Nida:- Hey Nida..welcome to the blog...and as for being a planning jerk..u can see from the comments there are more than enugh to give u the company!
Planonholic... that is not me.
I mostly take everything as it
unfolds.
Sometimes I wish I did plam more...
like I was packing for my vacation
last week up till a few hours before I had to leave for the
airport.
My husband kept asking me
"why do you always do this?"
My answer was "don't worry... it's
all cool...I will be ready on time"
I never sweat the small stuff...
I love to just enjoy each day as it comes to me.
At times I do put myself under a
little stress being I am not into
planning... but things always get
done.
So... it's all good!
samuru:- haha!U seem to be a lot like mu husband...it does things in the end and sometimes he manages and at other times there is complete chaos!
No, you have lots of company! Same pinch!!
Enjoy!!!!!and do visit the underwater aquarium..its great i have heard!!
and also please post some pics.....
Good post !! Same pinch :-). I like to cook by plan and decide on dresses to wear for a week ( I need to iron them and not repeat the same I wore last week :-)). I think all hubby's are cool..So far, no great issues with my hubby ..should wait and see when things start bursting.
Pearl:- Aah grt...and there seem to be many more like me!:-)
Anoop:- hey thx dear and yes I did visit the underwater acquarium ....was quite something!
Pavithra:- Oh wow..u sound so much like me!:-)...planning for cooking and clothes..heheh...am sure ur driving ur hubby nuts too!
Hi Ekta:)
In another lifetime, I was a compulsive planner till I planned to stop being one:))
Now I just live by the nanosecond and enjoy every wee bit of it;))
Like reading your blog.Keep writing.
Slainte!
M!;)
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