Thursday, June 29, 2006

Hope or Acceptance?

I am tired and drained.

Life can be very very tiring sometimes...and each day like a hurdle race....sometimes u gain the momentum and crossing the hurdles is a part of the run..comes easy!

At other times...u just trip, u just trip over and then you wonder how your ever gonna get up, and start all over again, crossing all the hurdles yet again.

I live with my fears and I hope for respite. I ask myself what is it...Hope or Acceptance?

What is going to take me through?...Should I live each day in the hope that tomorrow is going to be better or should I today stand up and accept that this is what life is going to be like-and erase all memories of what life was , and all dreams of what it could have been.....accept life and learn to live with this acceptance.

Does holding on to hope mean I am an escapist who doesnt want to accept reality? Does acceptance mean I am not a fighter--that I have given up?

Dunno what is right or wrong--but dont know how long Hope can give me the strength--maybe its time to embrace acceptance and let my present sink in and define my future.

In the end its ones own journey-alone-Always...and with time one figures out the best way to complete the journey....its not about giving up...its about figuring our the right path!

The image of me isnt what I knew it as...I wish this image would go away, the existence erased, or taken away so that noone could reach me and I could reach no one. Away from all and everything....away from me too.

p.s :- Thx everyone for the lovely comments on my last post--didnt reply coz didnt know what to say to all of you except thx a lot!

54 Comments:

At 9:42 PM, Blogger Prash said...

Hope and Acceptance ...

Accepting the present the factor and hoping for the best tomorrow is LIFE.

If you accept, it doens't mean that you are stop fighting. Having hope doesn'tmean you are an escapist.

Stop-fighting is when you accept the defeat and not the reality. Escapist is when you don't have hope...

You passed so many tight-corner situations in your life. You passed through all of them and you are standing here now. And I shall tell you that you shall pass them through too...Cheers, mate, cheers!

 
At 10:20 PM, Blogger White Forest said...

I know accepting reality might be a lil harder ...but i guess no other option..if we dont accept the rea;ity now ..we may have to pay a bigger price..

Cheer up, ekta!

 
At 12:02 AM, Blogger nishu said...

U can never know the correctness of ur decisions unless u drop ur teeth(and then tooo some ppl.dont come to know of it.)the best way to live is following ones heart. atleast we have the satisfaction that we dont lie to ourselves

 
At 2:14 AM, Blogger Stone said...

Over analysis??

chill!!!

 
At 9:30 AM, Blogger qwerty said...

hi Ek,

Send me your home address. Maybe a box of chocolates will do the trick.

 
At 9:41 AM, Blogger Keshi said...

Ekta Im bakk and thanks so much for the lovely wishes in my blog MWAHHHHHH!

I hope ur doing ok...I missed u all so much!


**Hope or Acceptance?

It depends on what ur facing...some experiences in our lives make HOPE hopeful. And some others make ACCEPTANCE sensible.

tc n luv,
Keshi.

 
At 12:30 PM, Blogger the sunflower said...

"Does holding on to hope mean I am an escapist who doesnt want to accept reality? Does acceptance mean I am not a fighter--that I have given up?"

a classic question ekta! i guess the trick is in realising when to accept that things won't change and hoping when there is a good chance....

 
At 2:02 PM, Blogger Gumnaaaam said...

Hope Or acceptance...
Hmm...thought provoking comparison..
I am not a hoping kind of person...I try n manage to stick with acceptance...as hope gives nothing (most of the time) excluding expectations... The more u hope ...the more u expect... and expectations...are worse..(near my eye)to lead a happy life..

And let me tell u one thing… there is no disadvantage in accepting what is coming over …but there are disadvantages of hoping…like expectations...fear of unfulfilling dreams...and lot more…and on the other hand.. our common sense...really prefers realism rather than idealism…and here we can see crystal clear that…Acceptance plays the role as reality and hope is a virtual belonging.

Accept things as they are…n you’ll soon be feeling contented with what you have.. rather than hoping for what u don’t have !

The following quote is an example of what my thought are regarding Hope 0r Acceptance

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

 
At 4:49 PM, Blogger Contented said...

Hmmm...wasnt expecting this kinda post from you, specially after what u commented on my blog.

As you yourself told that this is kind of phase everyone of us go through...why cant you just hang on and hope....Or is that difficult?? How would I know???

I am as lost as you are at this point of time...:(

Hope everything going to be fine for you...

 
At 7:10 PM, Blogger Has to be me said...

Hey just chill! Whats bothering u? Do v have to shake up Anand to cheer u up? Take it easy & take care.

 
At 8:20 PM, Blogger southpaw said...

Calm down.....
Hope or acceptance, Happiness or sorrow, escapism or bravery, everything depends on ur own point of view coz what u might call bravery, i may call it escapism and what u call hell might be heavens for me....so forget those terms of life and remember the good old gujarati theme of life, khao, piyo ane majaani jindagi jeevo...:).

Pssst...I m typing this comment on my laptop lying on an inclined bed in apollo, was operated in the afternoon, so thats what i meant,what might be hell for u is heavens for me....:)

 
At 9:17 PM, Blogger How do we know said...

i don't know what to say.. just that .. was here, am kind of hoping u do the finding and not the losing..

 
At 9:18 PM, Blogger Mr. J said...

Someday soon you'll look back on this and smile :) Take care.

 
At 9:37 PM, Blogger Eclipsed Thoughts said...

Ekta,
hmmm, well at the moment even i am so very drained and felt your blog so near to my own thoughts.
Maybe we just move, bleed and breathe... keep going (ahead or somewhere??? :( dunno.

"Smile... tomm might be worse". That is murphy's philosophy. Even the "Murphy's" Philosophy says so... "SMILE"... forget the second part.

Live life!

 
At 10:08 PM, Blogger Shuba said...

faith and patience!

accept it nothing is permanent in life...not even problems!everything is a passing cloud...never give up!

 
At 12:39 AM, Blogger Yashita said...

"The image of me isnt what I knew it as...I wish this image would go away, the existence erased, or taken away so that noone could reach me and I could reach no one. Away from all and everything....away from me too." ...I don't know wat to say u know...this is exactly how I felt sometime back...

you'll come out of it...

 
At 12:55 AM, Blogger Neha said...

'In the end its ones own journey-alone-Always..'

Truer words have not been said..a lot of people accompany us in this journey called life.. but we're still alone..

I don't noe what this is.. but Accept things and move on..life will have something better in store for u..

 
At 6:39 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Prash:- Thx for the lovely words...Well thats the point--there is a thin line between accepting and yet continuing to fight...and how does one figure that out?

White:-:-)..Sad but true, reality always hurts!

Nishu:-Wow, thats well said and guess ur right too...will never know the results of our decisions till we actually take them!

Stone:- Haha yeah dear..analysis over:-)

Qwerty:- Haha...thx a ton..and yeah its a great idea!...but I like only godivas??..still want my add?;-)

Keshi:- Exactly, in a lot of ways it depends on circumstances and of course there is a time frame for u to hold on to hope...after a point u need to accept reality!

Missed u too girl...thx for the lovely comment..huggsss!!

Sunflower:- Welcome to the blog and thx for the lovely comment and ur absolutely right and thats what the post is about--figuring out if its time for acceptance or should I still continue to hold onto hope?

Gumnaam:-Well in some ways I think I do agree with you and hence the dilemma...co its exactly what I had in mind as well....Am I creatign unnecessary and unrealistic expectations by holding onto hope? Should I get practical, accept reality and then learn to deal with it?

And loveeeddd the quote....its going up on my pinboard dear!Thx a lot!

Contended:-Well the reason I write its only a phase is coz I dont know whats bothering u and guess one can only hope and pray its a phase! But ur right..guess most of us are lost in this aspect!

Has to be Me:-:-)Maybe...that would work!..thx dear..nothings bothering me..just some random thoughts!:-)

Southpaw:- hey what happened??? Why u in hospital?..what operation?..Give details!!..Hope u get better sooonnnn!!!!
And hey yes ur right...all these are relative factors...whats good for u may be bad for me!

How do we know:-Awww...thx how..and dont worry...am not getting lost anywhere...wil be back in my element from next post..I promise!!

Me:- Thx me...Its nice to hear this...hugggzzz!!!

Eclipsed:- Firstly huggs to u girl!!..Nothign works better during such times than a hug:-) And well yes we all go thru a phase of helplessness and being lost and well like u said, only a smile can get u through it..so am smiling and u smile too:-)
p.s:- Nice to see am not the only one!

Shubha:- Thx babe..well for some reason ur words are always so strong and positive that they manage to help me be optimist once again!!!..Hugss to u!

Yashita:- awww...hope ur ok yash..well its a terrible feeling must say and hey ur a strong girl to have overcome this!..God bless ya!!

Neha:- Yeah I agree neha and i strongly believe that we all have to go through our share of pains in life alone...many people may walk with you but they cannot feel your pain for u...only u have to do it! Thx for the kind words!

 
At 6:42 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Oh wow myth!!!
Firstly thank you for taking the time to write such beautiful and comforting words!!

And that a brilliant perspective...guess life is a motion and today will be yesterday someday and we change in someway everyday!!!

And yes am trying to get beyond this and thank god for everything wonderful in my life!!

Thx once again!...god bless!

 
At 7:49 AM, Blogger karmic_jay said...

Don't think too much, may be it's over analysis? Or as some say.. you just gotta do what you gotta do.
Hang in there, hope it all looks better with each day. :)

 
At 9:48 AM, Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

the older u get , the more blurry the image u had of yourself gets ... true isn't it ?

i dont know what is bothering you .... but when something hits us , it takes ages to go away ....

try going away somewhere alone .. it helps a lot ... shed all ur responsibilities for a short while and take a break.

just trust in God .... He / She is your best friend ... and talking to Him / Her as a friend will ease ur mind.

 
At 10:12 AM, Blogger Arz000n said...

its not about giving up...its about figuring our the right path!

I live on hope...and yes on what u just mentioned in ur post too...its about finding the right path.


I just hope that things go fine for you soon Ekta zeee....seee again Im relying on hope and am quite positive about it.

you take care gal!!

*hugz*

 
At 11:16 AM, Blogger dee iyer said...

you know what, sweets?
you think too much.

whats wrong with your reality though? i keep asking myself that. from the pain we get stronger. a lot of people have realities that they need to face that make them realise they'd rather not be here at all.

think about it. your realities are livable

 
At 12:07 PM, Blogger lil _kath said...

...though life can sometimes seem like an endless journey of questions without answers, if we truly reach out beyond our inner walls, a lifeline awaits us.

...everyone around us does play an important role in teaching us about life...talk to hubby, Mom,sister,bro., friends and of course to God.
...be open, have more faith and yeah acceptance.

** it's not getting what you want..it's wanting what you've got **

..smile sweetie ^_^

God loves you!

cheers,
-kathy-

 
At 12:45 PM, Blogger Saira said...

Thanx for writing in..:)
ya even i dont care but this i juts thought and wrote..:)

 
At 1:33 PM, Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

herez a smile and a hug for u :

 
At 3:55 PM, Blogger Bartman and Riggs said...

I could be philosophic but then I would not be different.

Hope, Acceptance, Fears, Hurdles, Existance etc etc are just words. It's what you make of them that counts.

We all go through days like you mention. If you actually take a long, hard look you will realise you are so much better off than so many others.

And then, we always have Qwerty's blog to make us laugh when all else fails :P

 
At 4:38 PM, Blogger NYC TAXI SHOTS said...

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At 9:07 PM, Blogger divya said...

i felt the same way till just a week back..felt scared and exhausted every step was a stumble but u know -hope won ..and it always does...good luck!!

 
At 10:19 PM, Blogger rachana said...

hi ekta..
read some of ur posts,, liked them.
well "acceptance for today and hope for tomorow"...
life is like that i think.....
all the best to u...

 
At 12:33 AM, Blogger Orikinla Osinachi. said...

Your heart is veiled in transparent silk and your soul walks in the light of liberty as your sensitivity drips with honesty.

Conquer your feelings.
For even our fears are nothing but feelings.

Our faith is our strength.
And what is faith?
Whatever we believe in is the corner stone of our faith.

You are blessed.
And as I can see, you are a blessing to the world.
Keep shining in the light of His countenance.

God bless.

 
At 4:16 AM, Blogger Dalicia said...

hope = you change things

accept = be at is....take it or leave it.


the best is not to build high expectations. or hope for something that's not possible.

 
At 7:19 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Karmic:- ur right..no more thinking on this from end...and no more analysis...am just gonna go
with the flow!:-)

Deepa:- hey ur right...sometimes certain things just take more than anticipated time to go and thats why they drain us out much more than we are ready for!..But hopefully this too shall go away!
Thx for the lovely comment and hope ur doing fine too.

Arzoon:- hey Thx buddy..am relying on hope too...guess no matter how much want, we just cant give up hoping can we;-)

Dee:- ur absolutely right..my realities are livable..just that soemtimes things dont turn out as expected and u gotta learn to get used to that fact!So hopefully it shld be ok soon!!

Lil:- aha..lovely point u said there..."Its wanting what u get"...huggs and loads of muwaaahhh!...yeah ur right..gues its about thanking god for the positives and letting go of the not so good parts of life and learning to still be happy!

Saira:- hey Saira welcome to the blog and thx for dropping by!

Deepa:- Ditttoooo babe:-))

Bartman:- Hey welcome to the blog and yes ur right...I am probably much better off than so many others..but tell me..honestly does that feeling make ur pain any less??;-)

Divya:- hey wow..firstly am so glad tht its all ok now!!..And well its stories like this that make me continue to hope!

Rachana:- wow...thx for dropping by babe and guess u summarised it the best way!!..It is about accepting the present and hoping for a better future!:-)

Orikinla:- Hey ori..thank you so much for your lovely comforting words and thx for dropping by my blog!
Guess it well wishers like you whose prayers make all bad phases pass through soon!

Elaine:- Eaxctly...to hope is good...but to over expect is where the dissapointment comes in!

 
At 7:22 AM, Blogger SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP said...

Hiya..Thnks for stopping by at my blog...Regards this, is like the love hate relationship u described regards life...But acceptance and hope are both siamese twins n may be best if they go hand in hand...Interesting thought I admit..:)

 
At 9:11 AM, Blogger Shikha said...

Heres a bigg hugggggg..and buy a box of chocolates..chocolates make you happy:)

 
At 10:22 AM, Blogger ishita said...

take each day as it comes...and i'd say u just need to let things be sumtimes...and times like these teach us a lot more abt ourselves and ppl close to us...difficult times...tough times...

and hope and acceptance both work positively...it's in the way u interpret them...*sigh*...I know many who don't even want to begin to accept...let alone hope!!:(

the way i luk at a bad day or days(!!) is to just tell myself these things happen (acceptance!) and not every day is gonna be the same (hope!)...and if i thought otherwise i'd be miserable forever!!! :)

keep smilin ekta...God bless

ps: if u're takin d advice of buyin chocs...plz share sum with me too!!:)

 
At 10:25 AM, Blogger PRADEEP K. said...

"Hope or Acceptance?"

How about "Hope And Acceptance?" Would that sound weird?

As long as the hope does not border on the imaginary, as long as it does not expect frogs to turn to princes when kissed...

As long as the acceptance is unconditional and whole-hearted, as long as it does not stem out of helplessness...

Hope and acceptance.


Cheers! :)

 
At 11:43 AM, Blogger Keshi said...

**after a point u need to accept reality!

yes thats right. but that too depends on a person's strength.

tc mwahhh!
Keshi.

 
At 1:46 PM, Blogger Sudeep said...

Does holding on to hope mean I am an escapist who doesnt want to accept reality? Does acceptance mean I am not a fighter--that I have given up?

yup.. thts wht we all go thro one or the other time in our life..

 
At 8:53 PM, Blogger Chiya said...

Udas na ho.

Har ek talash ke raste mein mushikein hain.
Har ek talaash muradoon ke rang lati hai.
Hazaroon chand taron ka khoon hota hai
tab ek subah fizaoon pe muskrati hai

Kathin sahi teri manzil, magar udas na ho.

Your Tiredness will vanish when you reach the destination.

 
At 10:15 PM, Blogger jshishir1 said...

a post straight from the heart and everyone goes thru this but hope sometimes is not being escapist but just being positive ,i don't mean live in a dream world but just cusion urself with hope coz life is tough and in the last post i wrote the first two lines of the poem now two more kind of perfet for this post
"Life is a venture ,tough to defy,
Being on the land,aspiring for the sky
Few in the million come in the limelight
For rest plunge in the oblivion in the darkness of night"
these line r so true but then life is all abt fighting this darkness ..sorry writting too much..me kind of in a bad state of mind myself so can corelate much easier

 
At 7:01 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Scribblez:- Ur most welcome...and yeah think am beginning to realise, it may not be a either or..but rather both together!

Shikha:- Thx babe..and muwaah and huggs to u too:-)..and yeah will defi keep aside for u;-)

Ishita:- hey babe...huggss...hope u had a grt anniversary!:-)And i agree with u...each day is not the same and am beginning to realise that one cant give up on hope(even if one wants to) coz hoping comes very naturally!!...and dont worry...the chocs shall be fairly distributed;-)

Pradeep:- Well ur right. Thx for u wonderful comments and it has made me see that these two go hand in hand...its accepting the today and hoping for tomorrow!

Keshi:- Ahah...strength...tricky word have realised..coz its very relative!!..How much strength is good enugh!?

Sudeep:- Absolutely right dear. We ALL go thru these phases at some time and guess sometime we all ask these questions and eventually we move on...and Guess I will too!

Chiya:-oooh..beautiful verse..thx a lot babe..big huggss to u!:-)
And wel the trick is I dont know what my destination is yet!..Sigh!..life!..;-)

Jshis:- Firstly thx a ton that was a really beautiful poem...its so nice to see so many people going thru similar things and knowing that optimism can take u thru all bad times!
I do hope and pray u get thru ur bad time soon too and am trying my best to balance between hope and acceptance so as not to hurt myself!

 
At 7:15 AM, Blogger Keshi said...

**How much strength is good enugh!?

There's only so much one can do and everyone is different. The strength u may have, I may not have. The strength I may have, someone else may not have. So it all comes down the person and the circumstance he/she is facing. Even an ounce of Strength is better than no strength at all. It's ok to fail after trying...cos u've tried havent u.

luv n hugggggggggz!
Keshi.

 
At 8:01 AM, Blogger starry nights said...

I think in life you have to have hope and acceptance. sometimes we accept the things we cannot change and live with it and also hope for the best,I think they go together and cannot be seperated.I am a hoping kind of person and hope that you will not accept things just because but always have hope.

 
At 8:06 AM, Blogger Aliie said...

i gess its both...hope and acceptance....
*huggles with fuzzy warmth giving u hope which i hope u'll accept:)
i like the way u write...its so personal!

 
At 8:24 AM, Blogger samuru999 said...

ekta,
Thanks for visiting my blog.
I do my best to accept today
with any challenges it might
bring. And, hopeful that
tomorrow will bring me another
day of peace, joy and love!

Wishing joy in your days.

 
At 10:16 AM, Blogger Sudarshan said...

Well I guess these two factors can't exist in isolation. It depends on the circumstances really.

If thee is even a 0.1 percent chance that we're gona succeed, we have HOPE.

Else when things go wrong and we have to face reality [ probably against our wishes ] that is acceptance:-)

How have you been?

 
At 11:41 AM, Blogger Amimu said...

HOPE. NEVER lose hope of IT!

 
At 12:16 PM, Blogger AlterinG Abhishek said...

Lots and lots and lots has already been said.
by the time i rite this,..
i sure u r in adiffernt mood already

"Does holding on to hope mean I am an escapist who doesnt want to accept reality? Does acceptance mean I am not a fighter--that I have given up?"

I feel u shud not get into these judgements....

be happi.
what maks u happi is the key
and be flexible

re-define..redefine....what makes u happi!!

 
At 7:16 PM, Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

Everyone differs in their ideas about how they should greet life and its challenges. I honestly don't believe in giving up because hope is the only thing that can keep you going. Accepting is a sort of giving up and accepting defeat. And man ceases to aspire. Beautiful post on the dual facets of life. Hang in there. may be it is worth the wait.

 
At 7:42 PM, Blogger Ujwal said...

hey ekta,
very though provoking article there, really it has so much in it...enjoyed it every bit.

 
At 6:10 AM, Blogger Ekta said...

Keshi:- So true...Guess thats something that we all have figure out for ourselves.Whatever strength it takes to keep us going...is enough i guess!

Starry Nights:- Thx for your lovely comment and yes guess most people seem to believe that its both together and not one of these which gives us the strength to move on!

Aliie:- *huggles with fuzzy warmth giving u hope which i hope u'll accept:)*
Awwwww thx so much...i feel better already!
And hey tonnness of huggs and muwaahhs back to u!:-)

Samuru:- Hey welcome to the blog and thx for the lovely comment!Thx for your lovely wishes!

Sudarshan:- *If thee is even a 0.1 percent chance that we're gona succeed, we have HOPE.*

U bet..i guess we hang on to every bit of hope that life offers and thats what helps us live our lives better!

Amimu:- Thx for dropping by and yes so have figured...am still clinging onto hope!

Alter Abhishek:- *re-define..redefine....what makes u happi*

Aha u make it sound so much more simple!Thx for your kind words!

M:- Well guess we all have our approaches in life..like I said..whatever seems to be the best way to complete the journey and guess most of us do hold onto hope in some form and yes acceptance and hope may actually coexist!

Ujwal:- Welcome to the blog and am glad u enjoyed reading it!

 
At 10:44 PM, Blogger Nabeel said...

well all people have fears .. and they are afraid of many things .. but let me remind u of a quote ..

it is better to regret about failure than to regret about not trying ..

 
At 10:46 AM, Blogger Apy said...

Hmm .. .interesting.... but i wd say .. jus hang in there.. its better to burn out than fade away...

 

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